- If you’re yelling, cursing, belittling or giving one another the silent treatment, it’s time to get help. I’m not talking about the rare occasion when one of you uncharacteristically briefly loses it; that can happen in the healthiest of relationships. If you speak to one another most of the time in a way that is disrespectful, hurtful, or demeaning, it’s a sign that your relationship is sick.
- If you regularly try to resolve differences and wind up escalating to a version of WWIII, it’s time to get help.
- If affection has become a thing of the past, it’s time to get help. If sex (or the lack of it) is being used as a weapon, it’s time to get help.
- If you have slid into a relationship that is like two roommates, and if either of you longs for the kind of intimacy that you once had, it’s time to get help.
- If you’re not on the same page with parenting your children, it’s time to get help.
- If your kids get a “No” answer from parent A and automatically get a “Yes” from the other, it means you are not on the same page.
- If there is infidelity or abuse, or a problem with substance abuse (alcohol is a substance, by the way) you need to get help. Like yesterday.
- If you’re frequently arguing about money, it’s time to get help.
- If your kids are getting into trouble at school or out in the community, it’s time to get help. Parenting is the hardest job in the world and if there are signs that what you’re doing isn’t working, get some help.
- If you cannot remember when you last felt safe, secure and comfortable with your partner, it’s time to get help.
- If you are counting the years before you can exit the relationship and haven’t tried with expert help to fix it, know that it’s never too late to get help.